Hey Friends...
I am writing over at the "A Martha Heart" website today. If you missed my mini run of "The 21 Day Husband Project" make sure to click here and join the AMH website community.
Showing posts with label The 21 Day Husband Project. Show all posts
Showing posts with label The 21 Day Husband Project. Show all posts
Monday, July 18, 2011
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
The 21 Day Husband Project (A Trial Run) Day 5
Ok Wives...this is the last day of our mini "Husband Project". I hope you have had a little fun with the projects, and that you may have been challenged to love your husband in a variety of different ways. I know I have.
Project #5
E-flirt.com
Text or E-mail Some Sweet Nothings
“I turn on my computer. I wait patiently as it connects. I go online. My breath catches in my chest until I hear three little words, “You’ve got Mail.” I hear nothing, not a sound on the streets of New York. Just the beat of my own heart… I have mail, from you.”
Meg Ryan as Kathleen Kennedy in “You’ve Got Mail”
Your Project
Send a flirty text or e-mail to your husband.
Getting Creative
Use an e-card service (hallmark.com or americangreetings.com) to send a cute and flirty note.
Don’t know how to text? Ask any teenager in the general vicinity.
Most phones have a camera feature where you can send a photo message. Be sure to keep it G rated so that he doesn’t get in trouble at work.
Ok, I will let you know that I am still working on number 4's project :) We have had so much going on in our household that I barely have been able to get family meals on the table, much less a special treat for my hubby. I will work on it though. Alright, onto Day 5's project :)
Remember you can keep it going by purchasing Kathi Lipp's book "The 21 Day Husband Project"...Let me know if you do :)
Project #5
E-flirt.com
Text or E-mail Some Sweet Nothings
“I turn on my computer. I wait patiently as it connects. I go online. My breath catches in my chest until I hear three little words, “You’ve got Mail.” I hear nothing, not a sound on the streets of New York. Just the beat of my own heart… I have mail, from you.”
Meg Ryan as Kathleen Kennedy in “You’ve Got Mail”
Your Project
Send a flirty text or e-mail to your husband.
Getting Creative
Use an e-card service (hallmark.com or americangreetings.com) to send a cute and flirty note.
Don’t know how to text? Ask any teenager in the general vicinity.
Most phones have a camera feature where you can send a photo message. Be sure to keep it G rated so that he doesn’t get in trouble at work.
Friday, July 8, 2011
The 21 Day Husband Project (A Trial Run) Day 4
Hey Wives... We are almost done with our mini trial of the 21 Day Husband Project. Even though I have not seen many comments, I know that many of you are loving your husbands through these "acts of service" and loving attitudes. Please feel free to jump in here at the blog and let me know how you are doing with the project. After today's project, we will have one more.
So how did I do with Project 3? Actually the idea behind Project 3 has kind of become a way of life for me when it comes to encouraging and affirming my husband... Not because I have always been good at affirming my husband, but actually because I was so bad at it for so many years. Even though I fall short in this area, I have learned how important it is to "lift" up my husband with affirming and encouraging words. I try to say those words to him, but also to others.
So have FUN with Project 4 :)
Project #4
Heart vs. Stomach
A Treat Just for Him
“You can tell a lot about a fellow’s character by his way of eating jellybeans.”
Ronald Reagan
Your Project:
Get a food treat for your husband that he’s not required to share with you or any other family member.
Getting Creative
Stumped for ideas? Here are some thoughts:
Get his favorite pint of Ben & Jerry’s and hide it behind the frozen chicken. Even if you buy it on Tuesday, you’ll have it ready and waiting for his special night later in the week.
Is there a certain cut of meat that your husband loves? How about having the butcher cut something just for him? Most supermarkets will even do the marinade for you – one less thing to think about.
Is there a certain candy that your husband loves from his childhood? Check out www.candywarehouse.com. They have all the nostalgic candy you could want (Black Jack Gum, anyone?) while also carrying any modern favorite you could be looking for.
My husband’s family loves something called “noodles and mashed potatoes” (we lovingly refer to it as “The Starch Fest”). I learned how to make this special dish just for him.
My guy loves the smell of baking almost as much as he enjoys eating the treat. Have some brownies in the oven when he gets home from work or working out. (I know, it negates the workout, but isn’t chocolate always worth it?)
Our friend Scott mentioned that he loves cranberry sauce, but eats it only at Thanksgiving. His wife intentionally made the holiday treat for him this past July.
Are you a wife who is an expert at low-cal salads and other forms of chick-food? Check out The Ultimate Guide to Man Food at www.kathilipp.com for ideas
So how did I do with Project 3? Actually the idea behind Project 3 has kind of become a way of life for me when it comes to encouraging and affirming my husband... Not because I have always been good at affirming my husband, but actually because I was so bad at it for so many years. Even though I fall short in this area, I have learned how important it is to "lift" up my husband with affirming and encouraging words. I try to say those words to him, but also to others.
So have FUN with Project 4 :)
Project #4
Heart vs. Stomach
A Treat Just for Him
“You can tell a lot about a fellow’s character by his way of eating jellybeans.”
Ronald Reagan
Your Project:
Get a food treat for your husband that he’s not required to share with you or any other family member.
Getting Creative
Stumped for ideas? Here are some thoughts:
Get his favorite pint of Ben & Jerry’s and hide it behind the frozen chicken. Even if you buy it on Tuesday, you’ll have it ready and waiting for his special night later in the week.
Is there a certain cut of meat that your husband loves? How about having the butcher cut something just for him? Most supermarkets will even do the marinade for you – one less thing to think about.
Is there a certain candy that your husband loves from his childhood? Check out www.candywarehouse.com. They have all the nostalgic candy you could want (Black Jack Gum, anyone?) while also carrying any modern favorite you could be looking for.
My husband’s family loves something called “noodles and mashed potatoes” (we lovingly refer to it as “The Starch Fest”). I learned how to make this special dish just for him.
My guy loves the smell of baking almost as much as he enjoys eating the treat. Have some brownies in the oven when he gets home from work or working out. (I know, it negates the workout, but isn’t chocolate always worth it?)
Our friend Scott mentioned that he loves cranberry sauce, but eats it only at Thanksgiving. His wife intentionally made the holiday treat for him this past July.
Are you a wife who is an expert at low-cal salads and other forms of chick-food? Check out The Ultimate Guide to Man Food at www.kathilipp.com for ideas
Sunday, July 3, 2011
The 21 Day Husband Project (A Trial Run) Day 3
Hey Wives...
I sort of completed Project 2... I know that my hubby loves football, and his dream would be for me to go to a game with him...so officially I can't complete the project now, but I will be able to when Football season comes (if it comes :) Hold me accountable Ladies... Here is Project 3...
Project #3
You da’ Man
Spreading Great Gossip About Your Guy
Your Project:
Say something nice about your husband to someone else. Make sure you tell him what you said, and to whom.
Getting Creative
Who are the important people in your husband’s life? Your kids, his parents, his friends? Be intentional about who you chat with when you brag on him – it’s almost as important as actually doing it.
Having a hard time coming up with something? I still brag on my guy for things he did years ago. He loves when I tell the story of how brilliantly he proposed (there were waterfalls and stuffed portabella mushrooms involved…).
Here are some other areas to think about when crafting your brag:
His parenting skills
His patience level
The way he treats your mom
His culinary ability
His job
This is me speaking again...It would also be great if you can say it in front of him to another person...double points...
Let me know how you do...
I sort of completed Project 2... I know that my hubby loves football, and his dream would be for me to go to a game with him...so officially I can't complete the project now, but I will be able to when Football season comes (if it comes :) Hold me accountable Ladies... Here is Project 3...
Project #3
You da’ Man
Spreading Great Gossip About Your Guy
Your Project:
Say something nice about your husband to someone else. Make sure you tell him what you said, and to whom.
Getting Creative
Who are the important people in your husband’s life? Your kids, his parents, his friends? Be intentional about who you chat with when you brag on him – it’s almost as important as actually doing it.
Having a hard time coming up with something? I still brag on my guy for things he did years ago. He loves when I tell the story of how brilliantly he proposed (there were waterfalls and stuffed portabella mushrooms involved…).
Here are some other areas to think about when crafting your brag:
His parenting skills
His patience level
The way he treats your mom
His culinary ability
His job
This is me speaking again...It would also be great if you can say it in front of him to another person...double points...
Let me know how you do...
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
The 21 Day Husband Project (Trial Run) Day 2
Hey Blogville... I am hoping that some of you out there are joining me with taking the 21 Day (actually 5) Husband Project challenge. If you missed Day 1's project, look down a post or 2 and read about Day 1's project. I completed Day 1's project today and it was well received.
Basically, Day 1 said to offer your husband a 30 minute down time for himself. 30 Minutes when he could just relax and do whatever he wanted to do. I didn't get to creative with Day 1's project as I just asked my husband if he wanted some down time (time for himself) when he got home home. Real original I know, but it was to the point. I have to interject a little back story here so you will appreciate his response.
In our early years of marriage my hubby would beg me for what he called some "DT" (down time, decompressing time) when he got home from work. You would think that would not be too much to ask, as he only really needed 15 to 30 minutes of time to compose himself after his long day at work. Well, actually it was difficult, as I was a stay at home mom and the first thing I wanted to do when my hubby got home was either pass a child into his hands, or share with him how stressful my day was...Needless to say, we had a rocky road for a long time until we both learned to be giving to each other.
OK, fast forward to today...when I asked him if he would like some "DT" today, he simply told me that he already gets some "DT" with the way our schedule is currently when he gets home...YEAH!!!! He then told me that he appreciated the thought though...another YEAH moment...(I hope I am using the Yeah word right...I mean that I am cheering... I always get that word messed up with the yes word).
Day 1 complete for me...I hope you all have had a chance to complete Day 1 with your husband...if not, go ahead and try to in the next couple of days, but for those of you who are ready for the next project, here it goes...
Project #2
Back in the Day
Do Something He Enjoyed Before You Got Married
“Lust is easy. Love is hard. Like is most important.” ~ Carl Reiner
Your Project:
Initiate an activity that your husband used to love. Whether it’s his favorite hobby, sport, or pastime, it’s time for you to get involved – be his buddy today.
Getting Creative
Many a man’s hobby has gone by the wayside due to matrimony. Is it possible that it’s time you learned to golf or fly fish? Don’t try to beat him, just join him.
Possibly the only thing your husband would enjoy more than playing chess with you is teaching you how to play chess. Ask for a lesson so he can teach you something that he is an expert at (or really loves). Just your willingness to learn will be a huge boost to your guy.
Pick up a magazine about your guy’s now dormant hobby. Ask him questions about why he loves it so much. Learn a couple of technical terms so that you are better able to discuss it.
Do a little research. Find out what the definitive website is on your husband’s favorite subject. Maybe there’s an event in town, a lecture to attend, or a game to watch.
OK Wives... have fun with this one, and make sure to leave me a comment that you completed this task :)
Sunday, June 26, 2011
The 21 Day Husband Project (Sample) Day 1
Ok Wives... Kathi Lipp assistant sent me a preview of her full book, The 21 Day Husband Project. She is allowing us to complete 5 of the 21 days to see if we want to go for the full challenge. Of course the book will go into much more detail about what the "Project" is and the "why" we should take such a challenge like this. If you want to go ahead and purchase Kathi's book, or try out the mini project here to get an idea of what the book is about.
The original idea of the book is that you would complete the project in 21 consecutive days, but for the mini project I will post a new project every other day, as I know not everyone may be on their computer everyday... Remember to leave a comment and let me know you completed Day 1. Anyone can sign on at anytime...
30 Minutes is All it Takes
Create Some Free Time When He Gets Home
“There's never enough time to do all the nothing you want.”
~Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes
Your Project:
Focus on your husbands transitional 30 minutes today. Would he like to be left alone to rest and rejuvenate, or does he want some undivided attention from you? The point is to let your husband know you value what he does out in the world, and that he has a safe loving place to come home and get refreshed at the end of the day.
Getting Creative
There are plenty of reasons why it might not be easy for you to give your husband some transition time at the end of the day. You need to look at what can work for your relationship. Be creative, like the stories listed below. Brainstorm with your friends until you find a situation that will work for you and your guy.
My friend, Joann, purposely scheduled her daughter’s dance classes twice a week at the same hour that her husband gets home from work. That way, her hubby comes home to an empty house. He gets some quiet, and she gets a more peaceful man.
One husband has his workshop out in the garage. His wife encourages him to go
and hang out there for a while before dinner. (Since starting this arrangement, her
husband has started helping out with the after-dinner clean up. Nice side benefit.)
Crockpots are The Husband Project’s best friend. Set your crockpot to be finished
thirty minutes after your husband gets home from work. Let him know that you
don’t need anything until dinner is ready. Don’t know a crockpot from a flower
pot? Check out the recipes in The Ultimate Guide to Man Food at
www.kathilipp.com
Does your husband already have a great transition routine after getting home?
Find some other little thing to bless that time. Maybe it’s making sure the TV is
available, his favorite sweats are clean and ready to be changed into, or there’s a
cold soda waiting for him in the fridge. It may be so small that he doesn’t even
notice. That’s okay – you’ll know what you did.
What if your husband works from home? Maybe the best way to help him relax is
to ask what he would like the schedule to be. Does he want dinner before or after
he gets some time to recharge? Ask him what would make his night better.
Remember to leave me a comment and let me know that you completed your Day 1 Project (you have 2 days before I post the next challenge)
The original idea of the book is that you would complete the project in 21 consecutive days, but for the mini project I will post a new project every other day, as I know not everyone may be on their computer everyday... Remember to leave a comment and let me know you completed Day 1. Anyone can sign on at anytime...
30 Minutes is All it Takes
Create Some Free Time When He Gets Home
“There's never enough time to do all the nothing you want.”
~Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes
Your Project:
Focus on your husbands transitional 30 minutes today. Would he like to be left alone to rest and rejuvenate, or does he want some undivided attention from you? The point is to let your husband know you value what he does out in the world, and that he has a safe loving place to come home and get refreshed at the end of the day.
Getting Creative
There are plenty of reasons why it might not be easy for you to give your husband some transition time at the end of the day. You need to look at what can work for your relationship. Be creative, like the stories listed below. Brainstorm with your friends until you find a situation that will work for you and your guy.
My friend, Joann, purposely scheduled her daughter’s dance classes twice a week at the same hour that her husband gets home from work. That way, her hubby comes home to an empty house. He gets some quiet, and she gets a more peaceful man.
One husband has his workshop out in the garage. His wife encourages him to go
and hang out there for a while before dinner. (Since starting this arrangement, her
husband has started helping out with the after-dinner clean up. Nice side benefit.)
Crockpots are The Husband Project’s best friend. Set your crockpot to be finished
thirty minutes after your husband gets home from work. Let him know that you
don’t need anything until dinner is ready. Don’t know a crockpot from a flower
pot? Check out the recipes in The Ultimate Guide to Man Food at
www.kathilipp.com
Does your husband already have a great transition routine after getting home?
Find some other little thing to bless that time. Maybe it’s making sure the TV is
available, his favorite sweats are clean and ready to be changed into, or there’s a
cold soda waiting for him in the fridge. It may be so small that he doesn’t even
notice. That’s okay – you’ll know what you did.
What if your husband works from home? Maybe the best way to help him relax is
to ask what he would like the schedule to be. Does he want dinner before or after
he gets some time to recharge? Ask him what would make his night better.
Remember to leave me a comment and let me know that you completed your Day 1 Project (you have 2 days before I post the next challenge)
Friday, June 24, 2011
The 21 Day Husband Project (A Trial Run)
Hey Blogville!!! I have a challenge for you all to take if you are interested. A couple days ago I heard Kathi Lipp on Focus on the Family. She was talking about her book "The 21 Day Husband Project". After listening to her speak I was challenged to take her challenge. Here is a snippet of what her book is about... Go to Kathilipp.com for more details...
The Husband Project
Do you feel like your marriage has gone from "I do" to "What did I do?" Recapture the romance that made you and your husband fall in love in the first place. The Husband Project provides 21 days of fun activities to show love and honor to your husband. Kathi Lipp will help you discover:
•Proven ways to return fun and flirting to your marriage.
•Inner assurance to meet your husband's unspoken emotional needs.
•Increased confidence when it comes to meeting your husbands sexual needs.
•New levels of warmth and tenderness in your relationship.
•A deeper sense of security with your husband.
•A greater ability to boost your husband's belief in himself.
Kathi Lipp's assistant sent me a 5 day mini challenge to complete with an online community... If we like the 5 day challenge, then we can go out and buy the book, and then complete the 21 day challenge together and have a celebration at the end of the 21 days.
I am doing this mini challenge with an online Facebook group, but thought to open it up to blogville too. If you are interested, leave a comment and let me know you are on board for the mini challenge (project)... While completing this challenge you can share as much or as little as you want too...just knowing that other women are in this challenge with you will help to keep you going when the "challenges" get tough :)
I am taking this challenge because my husband is in need of some extra encouragement at this stage in his life. Plus when I love my husband well, I am serving God.
I will post the first challenge in a couple of days...let me know if you want to join in :)
Blessings!!!
The Husband Project
Do you feel like your marriage has gone from "I do" to "What did I do?" Recapture the romance that made you and your husband fall in love in the first place. The Husband Project provides 21 days of fun activities to show love and honor to your husband. Kathi Lipp will help you discover:
•Proven ways to return fun and flirting to your marriage.
•Inner assurance to meet your husband's unspoken emotional needs.
•Increased confidence when it comes to meeting your husbands sexual needs.
•New levels of warmth and tenderness in your relationship.
•A deeper sense of security with your husband.
•A greater ability to boost your husband's belief in himself.
Kathi Lipp's assistant sent me a 5 day mini challenge to complete with an online community... If we like the 5 day challenge, then we can go out and buy the book, and then complete the 21 day challenge together and have a celebration at the end of the 21 days.
I am doing this mini challenge with an online Facebook group, but thought to open it up to blogville too. If you are interested, leave a comment and let me know you are on board for the mini challenge (project)... While completing this challenge you can share as much or as little as you want too...just knowing that other women are in this challenge with you will help to keep you going when the "challenges" get tough :)
I am taking this challenge because my husband is in need of some extra encouragement at this stage in his life. Plus when I love my husband well, I am serving God.
I will post the first challenge in a couple of days...let me know if you want to join in :)
Blessings!!!
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